Intro: ~~> We will call the youngest daughter SZ.
SZ is highly involved in criminal activities include theft, grand theft auto and a lot more, drugs, alcohol are both involved, lie after lie, she could very easily win a "Best Actress" award, ~ She has NINE children that she has pretty much abandoned for a new boyfriend. (She is still married, she put her husband in jail under false accusations, he is now out of jail from her false accusations and all of the charges but 2 have been dropped, he is still fighting the other 2 charges dropped and goes to court next month for those)
2 of their 9 children are in the US (SZ sneaked them across the U.S. boarder) and the other 7 are now in foster care in the other Country. SZ did not show up for a court date this month like she was told to do and so now she has possibly lost all rights to the 7 children.
SZ is an American citizen,and 2 or 3 of the children are American. ~ SZ's husband and most of the other children are of the other Country.. ~ SZ's husband is Cristian, SZ has turned Pagan/Wiccan as she has her oldest daughter (age 15) addicted to prescription drugs, cigarette's, theft, lies and sex. ~ The oldest daughter also has 17 different adult persona's online and her Mother thinks it is funny... They are the best of friends and do almost everything together.
There is so much more to this story, SZ has done a lot of wrong things to my husband, her sister and I also. She has stolen from us, lied over and over to us,. At one point in time my husband and our oldest daughter were watching the 2 children that SZ has here in the U.S. for her ~ While she stayed in the other Country for almost 5 months, and then in March of 2011 she came to the U.S. to live with her new boyfriend. ~ Then one day, shortly after she came to the U.S. she called the police on our oldest daughter for yelling at her 15 year old and had the police take the 2 children away and given to her new boy-friends Mother.
None of her 9 children live with her at all.
She is now telling everyone that she absolutely hates me (her Mother) and that everything that has ever gone wrong in her life is all my fault and that if I had just died back in the late 1980's in a major auto accident that I was in (A drunk driver hit my car & I almost died and am still partially paralyzed on my left side) Anyway, SZ said that she could have married her step Father and had him all to herself like she has always wanted. She even literally told her Step Father "I know this sounds really sick Daddy, but I always wished Mom had died in that car wreck, so I could have married you."
My husband and I have now been talking to our son in law who wants to give my husband and I custody of the children until SZ can get ALL of the help she needs and can prove that she is stable and can gve all of the children a stable life. They have NEVER had a stable life and if you have ever seen the Movie called: "Lord of the flies" the children have always raised each other. ~ Period.
Those children need more than anything in the world, someone, to show them that they AREloved and that someone DOES care about them. We might not ever be able to give 9 children everything they WANT in life, but we can always show them Love and that we DO care!!
Everyone who knows us, our entire family, has said that SZ is extremely mentally ill and nothing anyone can do will ever help her and they tell us that we should "SHUN" her and stop trying over and over again to help her. Every time we try to help her in any way we end up getting hurt extremely badly. She did it again just this week. She showed up at our door with no heads up and just walked in like nothing had ever happened bad. She talked about how everything that had happened was our oldest daughters fault and how sorry she was for hurting us in any way. She then asked me to take her shopping and we'd go to lunch. We had a wonderful visit.
That was on Wednesday, I have heard absolutely not one word from her since and the ONLY thing I have heard is from her husband whom she has a "No contact order" on said that SZ contacted him in an email and threatened him that he had better NEVER give my husband and I any type of custody of their children!!
My God, does she want then in Foster care forever, does she want them adopted out where she can never see them again unless they become adults and come looking for her?? We can not "to save our lives" figure out WHY she hates us so very much!!??
Shutting up before I end up writing a book here... Which I could easily do if I really sat down and thought about the 34 years of SZ's life. ~ Thanx so very much to anyone for your thoughts and prayers about all of this. ~ Take Care & God Bless!! ;)