I need advice. Let me start by saying that I am so very much in love with my husband, we have been together for 12 years and we were really really happy until just recently. You see my husband is what you call a "car guy". He loves all things motors, gasoline, horsepower, speed. We currently own: a muscle car/project car, a beater truck, a Yamaha motorcycle, a dirt bike, a sport coupe that will be my sons when he starts driving in a year but my husband is driving as a daily driver in the mean time, and a new Camaro that is mostly my car but my hubby drives it too. Thats 6 vehicles between 2 drivers. I want my husband to be happy, that is why we have so many cars now, the problem is that he keeps wanting to buy more.
He has always wanted an old school muscle car so I gave him the go ahead to purchase the 1973 Plymouth Cuda, as long as he sold a lemon sports car we had. He did sell the lemon 7 months after we bought the Cuda, but it was like pulling teeth getting him to do it. He had been wanting a truck, which I do not think we need, and I told him he could get one if he sold his Pontiac GTO, his "commuter car" for a car with good mpg. So he would be selling one car to get 2 in return, I thought this was a good deal for him. And it would save us money because his commuter car was not very good on gas and took premium. Well he agreed with this bargain and bought a cheap truck right away, but he did not sell the commuter for many months, only after I reminded him of our deal multiple times. Now he is driving my sons car to commute to work instead of buying a new low mpg car, which he said he would buy later when my son took possession of his car. But now he wants to buy an old Dodge Duster instead. The Duster is supposed to be a "drift car" for fun, and won't be registered or insured, because one of the issues I have with all our cars is the insurance and registration cost of owning so many cars. He wants this car as a hobby to take to drift competitions. But our agreement was for a car with low mpg to get him to work, that Duster won't even be street legal. He pretty much wants me to give him the ok to buy whatever he wants when he wants, he says this will make him happy. I know my husband, if I say yes to this Duster he is going to want the commuter car in a few months too. He wants to buy another car every few months, but he doesn't like to get rid of the ones we already have. One thing I have to say though is that my hubby likes a good deal and all of our vehicles are pretty cheap, in fact the only expensive car we have is my Camaro. But thats because I made a choice to have 1 good car, and he chose to have many cheap cars. My one car did cost more than all his combined. Because he buys cheap cars we have a lot of repair cost, fortunately he is a decent mechanic and fixes almost everything himself. At least saving us the huge labor costs of a mechanic, but still lots of repair, and the Cuda is a project so it eats up money too.
So basically I want him to buy a commuter and he wants me to give him free reign to buy whatever he wants, he said this yesterday, he actually said "why can't you just let me go". Meaning I should just let him do what he wants. He has started saying that I don't want him to be happy, me not letting him throw away our money on whatever car he wants is getting in the way of his happiness. We make a decent living, but we are not rich by any means. The Duster is only 2 grand, which we do have in savings but every year we blow our savings on another car. I would like to keep the money as an emergency fund, but every time we have available funds he buys cars. He says it is not fair that I have a nicer car than him since he is the "car guy", should I just let him get this car to make him happy. What actually hurts me the most is him telling me he is unhappy in life, I want very much for him to be happy. I just worry that he never will be.
What do you think? Should I let him get the car he wants. Am I being a naggy controlling wife by saying no to him. He brings in more money than me, should I let him do what he wants with it? I want honest opinions please, don't try to spare my feelings. Thank you for reading and your input will be greatly appreciated.