My husband and his ex were together for 3years. Long story short, he fell out of love and continued to let her live with him even when separated. We met and began dating when they were still living together. He told her from day one, he'd never remarry. Well, a week after we started dating, he moved in with me...a month later, he popped the question.
We're now married and his friends, cousins, even his own sister are still very actively involved in HER life. They wont invite us to birthday parties because they invite her instead...to me, this is a sign that they just don't respect us enough.
I recently found out that the ex is getting in really close with my husband's two favorite cousin's. One of which she LIVES with. Its all so confusing to me... she even insisted on going to my brother-in-laws wedding! She is not family yet they willingly allow her to tag along on family events!
Be warned, my husband's brother and sister don't like me. His family are all avid drug users and I don't respect that sort of thing, nor do I tolerate it. "She thinks she's too good to get high with us" is what I've heard. My husband's ex gets high with them all the time.
My question...will this thing blow over or should I speak up about how it's disrespectful to my husband and I? I've got two children and we are trying to conceive now and I don't want our child to be neglected by his family.
It just seems as though his ex is still trying to be apart of his life...and they prefer her because of drugs. (Not to mention, she's kind of crazy. She used to stalk me, tried to get me fired, dug up old flames and pulled background reports on me when we were dating)...
So. Let it blow over and continue to allow her to be apart of his family's life? Speak up to someone about it? Or am I just being selfish and should cut the crazy girl some slack? ANY advice would be much obliged. Thank you.