I am 40. Ive never been in trouble, arrested, imprisoned, taken drugs, done anything illegal at all. I had a daughter when I was 20 and brought her up by myself perfectly well with no social services involvement whatsoever.
After 19 years apart from the love of my life (who was not the father of my now 19 year old daughter) we are now back together and want to get married and have a baby together.
He got married at 19 and had 2 children. The marriage broke up 6 years later and because both he and his then wife were drug users, she handed custody of the children over to her parents and got divorced. He then had to go through social services to see his children through contact centres. My now boyfriend still back then took drugs and went to prison 4 times for assault on a police officer and various possession of drug charges over the years.
He has now changed his life around, is off the drugs, holding down a legitimate job and paying his taxes and our life together is normal, law abiding and committed.
My question is, that if we had a baby together, particularly if we were married, would social services get involved because of his past and if so how would that be flagged up to them? Also does my legitimate and law abiding life not count, regardless of if we're married or not?
I would be grateful if anyone has the answers to these questions so that I know before I make decisions about my future. Thanks.